“If all the women who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote “Me too” as a status, we might give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem.”
**You do not owe anyone your story, I am at a point now where I am nearly able to share mine**
You know what hurts? Being put in a position where you are pressured sexually by anyone. I have been sexually harassed and assaulted by mostly men, some from school, one was a teacher (not even a teacher of mine), one was a patron at a bar (this happened a few times), one was while I was walking to find a bus, lost, one was when I was a child…. (I can’t right now), It’s interesting, how many men have tried to tear me down and how it had happened again and again until I decided to talk about it openly. TALK with your children. TALK with your sisters and brothers, friends alike. IGNITE this conversation in a healthy manner that doesn’t encourage FEAR. Be educated on consent and teach it to the ears who need it most and STOP pretending that it’s okay to QUIET someone down. Do MORE.
Let me show you some of the responses I’ve read to our “me too” explosion.
- Times have changed, women are stronger now
- He doesn’t do that anymore
- What about men?
- This is getting out of hand
- People, please stop posting TMI on here
- That was so long ago, I don’t even want to approach him
Okay, so you’ve been harassed or assaulted on a level that has either left you quiet, made you want to cry, has drowned you out and you no longer feel adequate to discuss it, or you find yourself in fear of hurting someone’s magical feelings. As I’ve been writing about my childhood and linking myself to a notion to scream louder, I am being torn today on how to address every corner pocket of this pool table. Not one person should have the ability to defile someone’s elasticity for their safe place. No one has the right to brush off an assault or harassment because of its age, gender or race. These are OUR people we are talking about and if you’re very concerned about the growing number of people (all sexes) coming forward to say that they have been damaged by someone who tried to hurt them or assault them, if it is too much for you to handle or care for, you might as well be in the same room with the predator and attacker. You might as well look away, but you are allowing yourself to be part of the problem and I’m asking you to scream louder for those who cannot, for those who are afraid. I’m asking you to please, share a story just enough with someone who may need to hear it whether they are afraid to hear it, or see it. Every story matters and every child, that turns into an adult, every adult who has been stripped of their freedom in sexuality for being smacked by these types of flames, they can tell you, I can tell you that we are not backing down and that you need to encourage change, real change that leads to action. Be the public voice when you see it, be the safe place, give back to those who haven’t had the opportunity to be seen.